I was looking out the window this morning and the fog kind of mesmerized me…do you ever just stare off into space with no thoughts at all? That was me this morning and then *Beep*, my coffee was finished in the microwave (I like it fresh, but sometimes you just go with the flow!).
Looking into the fog made me realize that sometimes I’m IN that fog where things aren’t so clear and everything is hustle bustle, go here and there or do this and that. It’s time to come up for air! I sometimes randomly text people out of the blue to see how they are doing and usually the first sentence is, “Great, but crazy busy!” Are you that way?
Is your schedule so crazy that you can’t take 30 minutes just for YOU? If not, it’s time to prioritize…when you fill up your “cup” then you will have more to give back and you will most likely come out of that fog!
Pause, find your breath and recharge! You are worth it! Now, back to my coffee and ME 🙂
Staying on the “taking care of mental health” train of thought, let’s learn how to keep the negative at bay…
Let’s face it, life is usually filled with obstacles that are outside our control. Events that are unforeseen, emergencies we are unprepared for, the list goes on. But there are things we have control over and among them are our thoughts.
Negative thoughts and feelings do a lot of damage, so it’s important to keep them to a minimum. Easier said than done, but here are 3 ways to help stop negative self-talk:
Breathe: If you start thinking negative thoughts, and you are feeling overwhelmed and upset, pause and breathe. It will help by slowing your heart rate by calming you down and giving you some clarity.
Acknowledge it: When you start to have negative thoughts, acknowledge them. You’re not going to stop them by ignoring them. You have to acknowledge them before you can confront them.
Consider the cause: What’s at the root of these thoughts? Are you afraid? Are you experiencing self-doubt? Why are these thoughts creeping in and why are they stopping you? Take some time to consider where these thoughts come from and confront them.
Focus on the positive aspects of your day…what do you look forward to most? Put that at the forefront of your mind and keep pushing the negative back. You’ve got this! Happy Humpday! 🙂
Pretty sure I won today! 🙂 Does anyone else dread Mondays come Sunday evening? You start getting anxious and start worrying about your to do list and what’s waiting for you at work…I know that probably happens to many of you. It does to me sometimes as well, but this weekend I went in with a plan.
If you fail to plan, you plan to fail…you’ve heard that one right? It is pretty true. If you go haphazardly about your day and don’t have a plan in mind, then all hell can break loose and you end up either starting over or beating yourself up.
The other day I wrote about worrying about what you can control. This has helped my mental state…I know when I have to wake up, I know what I’m going to eat for my meals and I know when I want to do my workout. What I can’t control is actions from other people like the person who pulled out in front of me this morning and then proceeded to take the next right. Grrr, but I couldn’t let it deter my mental state, my plan was to go forward and WIN Monday! So…
I GOT TO workout early this morning at Open Gym.
I GOT TO welcome 20 young volleyball players into the gym for their volleyball clinic.
I GOT TO buy a person’s breakfast in the drive thru line.
I GOT TO coach the noon class and watch a brother/sister duo do the same workout just at different abilities.
I GOT TO have lunch out (Chic-fil-a…I know not the best choice but hadn’t had it FOREVER! 🙂 ).
I GOT TO get my haircut and pray for my hairdresser who is battling cancer 🙁
I GOT TO go back to the gym and tackle the regular workout all by my lonesome…sometimes when you workout by yourself it gets a little lonely and you don’t push as much, but today’s workout was a mental battle and although I didn’t win the doubleunder battle, I still won because I didn’t quit!
I GOT TO coach 2 up and coming sophomores on the volleyball court this afternoon and I can’t wait to see what they do on the court!
I GOT TO talk to a member who just lost his wife; he is doing good and is ready to get back to the gym…I get to pray for him and his family.
I GOT TO coach the 4:30 class and razz them a bit…these classes, these people, all help me win my days! They are my Tribe! 🙂
I GOT TO coach my 5th/6th grade volleyball team to a sweep tonight! 3 wins – AGAIN! They have improved so much!
Finally, I GOT TO come home to dinner cooked for me (spaghetti squash and meat sauce – a little bit more healthy than lunch 😉 )
OH! And I GOT to write this! Not even sure anyone reads these, but I’m on a little streak…15 days straight of posting on the blog!
My point being in all of this…Look at all of the WINS you have and the things you GET TO do that maybe others can’t experience! If you look on the bright side of things and continue to look for the wins then life gets a little bit brighter and you will continue to help develop a more positive mindset!
Finish the sentence…it pours, right? Seems like that’s what it has been like since January. One thing after another seems to be popping up and a lot of time we can lose our focus.
A quote that comes to mind is by Maya Angelou-“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.” Sounds simple, but do you do that?
Focus on what you CAN control as it can change your life. I was sitting out on the back porch (only 80 degrees so was pretty nice) and then the storm blew in…the weather is something I can’t control so I picked myself up out of the chair and just watched the storm blow past. I see sunshine now -You have to go through the storms to see the rainbows 🙂 I changed my attitude about that storm and thought about something better.
Your mindset is a powerful thing-be positive, be persistent and be THAT person that people want to be around. Try being the most enthusiastic person in the room and see what happens…I tell you, it will start a ripple effect and it makes you a happier person as well. YOU are in control of your own happiness.
How you go about your work at home and the workforce is something you can control as well. You can proceed to be negative towards your job or how your home situation is, but like the quote mentioned, is there anything that you can change about it? Can YOU be the bigger person and go above and beyond to cause change instead of complaining? I always like to say “get to” instead of “have to”…So next time you say I have to cook dinner or I have to workout, remind yourself that you have food to cook and a body that has the ability to workout!
The Golden Rule is something you can control as well…be kind and treat others the way you want to be treated. There is so much hostility going on in the world; be the change you want to see in the world and let’s make this place a better world to live! Pay-It-Forward!
Do you have control over how you treat your body? Do you: Eat Clean? Get adequate sleep? Drink enough water? Stay active daily? Read? Listen to motivational music/podcasts? Avoid negativity? Meditate? Your mind and body is the best investment you can make these days! Take care of yourself!
Lastly, keep this quote in mind when dealing with life: “I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it”~Charles Swindoll
Have a great Saturday and focus on controlling the “rain” 🙂